In our culture, the term “narcissism” is often used. It frequently carries a negative meaning, is used as an insult, and conveys the message that the speaker only cares about oneself. Narcissism, also known as a narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), is a serious mental health condition that affects an estimated 6.2% of the population.
This condition is often misunderstood, and the way the phrase “narcissism” is used to characterize NPD doesn’t do it justice. Taking measures to lessen the stigma associated with NPD can assist people in getting the treatment they require and deserve.
The Narcissistic Personality Disorder: What Is It?
One of many varieties of personality disorders is narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). It is a mental illness characterized by an exaggerated sense of self-importance, a strong desire for unrestrained adoration and attention, strained relationships, and a lack of empathy for others. However, NPD sufferers battle with fragile self-esteem and are sensitive to even the smallest criticism behind the façade of great confidence.
Numerous aspects of life, including relationships, employment, education, and financial matters, are impacted by NPD. When they don’t receive the particular treatment or admiration they feel they deserve, people with NPD may generally feel dissatisfied and disillusioned. It is possible that others will not enjoy being with them, and their interactions may be unsatisfactory.
NPD symptoms and signs include:
- An overinflated idea of self
- An attitude of entitlement and a need for unrelenting, unwarranted praise
- Expectations of higher recognition despite lack of merit on the part of one’s accomplishments
- Fantasy-based obsession with wealth, fame, dominance, or beauty; a sense of superiority and Identification with only others who are similarly “special”
- Insulting or demeaning those who one considers to be less than oneself
- Expectations for special treatment and blind obedience to rules
- Utilizing unfair means to obtain what one wants
- An incapacity or reluctance to understand others’ needs and emotions
- Feeling jealous of others and thinking that others are jealous of them
- Possessing an air of haughtiness that comes across as boastful and pretentious
- Difficulty coping with any perceived criticism
Why Narcissistic Personality Disorder Is Stigmatized
When someone appears to simply care about oneself, it might be simple to label them as a “narcissist.” However, when this term is bandied about, it reinforces the stigma associated with these conditions and makes it much more difficult for people to come forward and ask for assistance. The truth is that severe insecurity and loneliness play a significant role in NPD. Many persons with NPD have trouble developing deep, sincere relationships with others. People with NPD will attempt to demonstrate their sense of mastery and superiority out of their deep-seated insecurity. But frequently, this merely backfires, making it harder for them to find the connection they need and want.
Many people criticize and harshly judge those who battle with NPD. They are described as being “malignant,” unredeemable, and inhuman.
In the end, everyone concerned will suffer more harm than good from this NPD conversation. People who view NPD in this manner exhibit a lack of empathy for those who they claim to lack empathy.
It does our society no good to label someone as “narcissistic.” By doing this, we are making judgments about people without knowing the true underlying symptoms. The plot is frequently much more intricate. Each of us has a distinct genetic makeup, past experiences, ways of thinking, physical ailments, mental health challenges, and more. It is tougher for individuals who have NPD to speak up when someone is hastily categorized.
Attempting to Lessen the Stigma
We must first ground ourselves in our sense of humanity to begin eradicating the stigma around NPD. We need to be rooted in the idea that, despite challenges, we wish to treat ourselves and others as compassionately as possible. We don’t need to be denigrated, taken advantage of, or humiliated by contact with persons who have NPD; being empathetic does not include being defenseless and exposed.
Setting limits is essential. Calling someone with NPD a “narcissist” may not be as successful in effecting change as describing the damaging behaviors that they may exhibit. Setting boundaries may help us to be more empathetic; when we feel less threatened, it is easier for us to be understanding and kind.
A word from the doctor
As a result, we can protect ourselves from the harmful effects of NPD by grounding ourselves in compassion and being kinder to ourselves and others. Therefore, the stigma associated with NPD may be less likely to persist.
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